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Relationship with Unbeliever
Partnering with Belial?   

Q. My boyfriend doesn't want to have anything to do with me because I'm not a Christian. He said to write to you. Is this fair? I can't help what I believe and think I'm a good person anyway. But, I don't want to lie to him.


Thank you for taking the time to write to us. I'm sure you are a good person and we appreciate the fact that you are willing to listen. Being "good" isn't limited to Christians as you have probably observed. There are "good" atheists and "good" agnostics, too.

Faith itself is a Gift from God

But, just trying to be "good" is not what we're about anyway. We believe we have been saved by grace through faith, and even our faith is a gift from God. We read that in the book of Ephesians, chapter 2 verse 8 (Eph. 2:8).

A Supernatural Book

Most Christians believe that God left them an important message and detailed guidance for their lives through the collection of books called the "Bible."

So they try to use this anthology of writings to guide their lives in everything they do. They sincerely believe this book is from God - and they have good reasons for believing this.

Extraterrestrial Message-System

A famous theologian, Dr. Missler, states:

Although the Bible consists of sixty-six separate books penned by over forty authors over a period of several thousand years, it is an integrated message system. Every passage, every word, every number, and every place name is there for a specific reason. A skillful design pervades the whole. The second foundation is that this message system is from outside our dimensions of space and time. It is literally of extraterrestrial origin.

(Missler 2002, 1).

Taking the Bible Seriously

Therefore, Christians take the Bible very seriously. They take it seriously when they read that they should not team-up with unbelievers. For example, a clear, modern translation called the New Living Translation warns Christians about legal contracts. The apostle Paul explains this in the book of 2 Corinthians 6:14. He says,

"Don't team up with those who are unbelievers…How can a believer be a partner with an unbeliever?"

Maintaining Commitment

Paul doesn't advise this to be mean or exclusive. He advises this because teaming up with unbelievers might weaken a Christian's commitment to his Lord or to his faith.

Worldly Pressures

There are lots of pressures on Christians to conform to worldly standards as it is. For example:

- They are encouraged to accept other faiths as equally true.

- They are told they must accept homosexual leadership in churches and the gay lifestyle in society.

- They are sometimes "ordered" to believe in evolution and to reject creationism.

- They are enticed to be unfaithful to their marriage partners.

- They are encouraged to value money and material possessions more than spiritual values.

The list goes on and on.

Conforming Thoughts to Christ

But, a true believer decides early in his Christian life and walk to conform his thoughts and life to Christ - not to give in to pressures from the world. This is a very difficult thing to do. But, it becomes even more difficult when a believer pairs up with an unbeliever.

Not Isolation

However, in defense of you and other unbelievers, Paul also advised Christians not to isolate themselves from unbelievers (see 1 Corinthians 5:9, 10). Instead, he just did not want Christians to lock themselves into personal relationships like marriages or into close business relationships with unbelieving partners.

As you get to know church believers and their "practices" or doctrines and theology this will become clearer to you. Paul did not want believers entering into these "legal contracts" with unbelievers.

Here are some books you may wish to read about Christianity. We'll put you on our prayer list. We believe that God has your very best interests at heart.

Suggested Resources:

Campbell, Charlie H. 2005. One minute answers to skeptics top forty questions. Aquintas Publishing. Available from: www.AlwaysBeReady.com.

Life Application Study Bible, New Living Translation. 2004. Carol Stream, ILL: Tyndale.

Missler, Chuck. 2002. Learn the Bible in 24 hours. Nashville, TN: Thomas Nelson.

Muncaster, Ralph O. 2004. Examine the evidence. Eugene, OR: Harvest House.

Please feel free to contact us with any other questions you may have. We enjoy working with people like you who have similar issues every day.


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